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My children's biological Dad tries to make them hate me.
I need help. My children's BD (biological dad)is always downing me to my kids and telling them I am not their Dad or anything at all to them. He disagrees with everything I try to teach them. He and his wife (the kids step-mom)try to make us look awful and twist things around. They harass us and it is making mine and my wifes life hard. They send nasty emails and threaten to take us to court to get our kids.
We cannot live happily or with any peace in this state, and it only gets worse as time progresses. I have been their other dad for nearly 7 years. I hoped as time passed it would lessen.
Please help me. My wife and I need support and advice, also some understanding friends to help. I just don't know what to do. I really don't think he will stop. It seems like he is out for blood.
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griffinjoe
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2008-04-07
I'm very new to being a stepdad but feel that most of us go threw the same battle be diffrent than him ask the kids what they do on his weekend and offer somthing more like the truth if the say dad say's your wrong gather all supporting evidence and educate them on topic teach your kids how to use there unconsious and consious mind to filter these items stay postive no matter the problem if you object negative it will happen failure is and illusion we set are selfs up for think positive and find a solution if he had real reason to take the kids then he would have done. he playing a mind game and sounds like he is wining keeping you guys on your toe me an dmy wife are going through simaler things every nice thing we do set us back 50ft so it seems
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My children's biological Dad tries to make them hate me
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Anonymous User
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2008-08-09
Hi as someone who has been in the same position you have my sympathy.
This is a horroble position to be in. Question, how are the kids responding to this? Are they suing this to test you all the time? Do you and your wife constantly argue over this in front of the children. Is there any relationaship at all with the father where this can be talked about.
In my case the father left but has never let go that my wife told on the family secrets and to this day is continually trying to deny my wife and show her to be a liar.
You must be dedicated to each other in your way problems are handled, etc. He is trying to divide your family and it cannot be allowed.
If problems result from the kids do not hesitate to ask for help and be sure the reasons are documented. That way should the father take you to court there is documentation of his deliberate interference in your's and their lives.
If finances are not a terrible issue be sure and spend time together and continue to develop your own traditions.
lastly refrain from doing the same thing he is doing. Kids who are unhappy about their parents divorce can unconsciously pit both against each other either in the hope of bringing things back or just to show their anger.
I cannot say it will get better. If you are a family of faith you must rely on that and the faith family. You must jhave a good dupport gruop on your side. That willl reduce his power over the kids and you.
My best to you and your wife
